I was co-hosting a company-sponsored discussion last fall, open to the public, about coping with divorce. A member of the audience shared with the group that he had discovered his wife was involved in a cyber affair.
Oh, wowee, I've found the perfect attraction to visit during our next vacation - and only a three-hour car ride away, too. I'm always looking for places that promise to hold the attention of a family that argues over which restaurant to go to for dinner.
Dear Mr. Dad: My dad is an engineer and has always looked at the world in a very logical, no-feelings-allowed, Mr. Spock kind of way. I guess that's just his style. The problem is that I don't think he's ever told me that he loves me. He's always been a great dad, and I have no doubt that he does love me. But as I get older - I'm nearly thirty - I start second-guessing myself, and I really need to hear the words. I tell my kids all the time that I love them. Why won't he tell me? Do you think he ever will?
My column of a few weeks back in which I described real-life parenting scenarios that qualified the parents in question for a diagnosis of "just plain nuts" was a big hit. Since it ran, readers have sent me numerous examples of parents who indeed seem to qualify as JPN and be in need, therefore, of You Ought to be Ashamed of Yourself Therapy.
Q. I'm dating a guy with a two-year-old daughter. We've been dating for three months. Most of the time they spend weekends at my condo. I'm not always sure how to respond when she acts up, and I don't always agree with how he parents her. Should we set some form of "structure" in dealing with her as a couple? I am starting to feel overwhelmed. What's good ex-etiquette?