‘This trend broke me.’ TikTok trend about grief that has users ‘sobbing’ explained

A new TikTok trend is flooding the feeds of users, and people are saying they weren’t “mentally prepared for this.”

The trend, having no official name but all videos accompanied with singer Pink’s song “Who Knew,” surrounds itself around grieving a loved one and what special items the posters want with them when they die.

A TikTok user known as @Cbauman12 was “approaching the 3 year mark” of her son’s death and took to the app to say, “When I die, bury me in comfy clothes and my shoes tied nice and tight,” according to the March 6 TikTok .

And why does she want to be buried ready to sprint?

Well, the answer has users “sobbing,” with one person saying, “This trend is absolutely destroying me.”

“I’ll be running towards this sweet boy for a very overdue play date,” the video reads over a photo of the mom holding her son.

And users even had the creator crying in comments, with one person saying, “When you get there he’ll say “look that’s my momma!” and run to you with tears of joy.”

Another user, known as @Zenicastillo, made a post about her grandmother, according to the March 6 TikTok captioned, “This trend broke me, I love you Nana.”

This user wants to be buried in her wedding dress because “there is someone in heaven who hasn’t gotten to see” it — her grandma, the video that’s been seen over 860,000 times as of March 17 read.

Her video had others contemplating navigating grief on their wedding day, with one person saying, “Sobbing because I so will relate to this one day, I’ve lost both my grandmas.”

“This made me bawl. you just reminded me that my grandpa will not see me in mine,” someone said.

“My nana passed away when i was 12 and she was the funniest lady ever, i wish she got the chance to meet my kids.. my oldest would have cracked her up,” another wrote.

User @The_keaton_oaks wants to be buried with her phone, according to the March 5 video that’s been seen over 1.2 million times as of March 17.

Why?

Well, she still has “A LOT of TikToks to make” with someone she’s lost, the video showing her and a little boy laughing together read.

Users were partaking in communal grieving by flooding the comments with people they’ve lost.

“Just lost my dad,” someone wrote.

“I lost my cousin 2 years ago, he was like a brother to me, and it’s the worst pain,” someone said.

“Extremely hard losing a sibling, lost my brother 8 years ago. Never gets easier,” another commented.

TikToker @Cadyebs shared the grief of losing her dad by saying they “have a lot of expresso martinis to catch up on,” the March 5 video said.

So, for obvious reasons, she wants to be buried with her ID card, the video that’s been seen over 6.5 million times as of March 17 showed.

Users took to the comments to let the poster know the video “wrecked” them, with one person saying, “this trend is breaking my heart but I wasn’t ready for you to do it.”

“Oooff this one hurt. I can’t imagine life without my dad nor do I ever want to,” another wrote.

“Sending big hugs. I felt the pain in that deep breath in the beginning. Grief is so unfair,” someone said.

But the trend doesn’t just involve losing human loved ones.

User @Katiee.george wants to be buried with a tennis ball because she has a date with the pup that left her “too soon,” according to the March 6 video showing the user crying and hugging her dog with a ball in its mouth.

Viewers ran to the comments and shared their experience with grieving a pet, with one person saying, “I buried my boy with his favorite bone so he could take it with him, I still think about him everyday, never hurts any less for me.”

“I have a date with my soul dog too. The saddest heartbreak I know,” another said.

“This one hit me right in the feels bc I miss my soul puppy so much! Still sitting here bawling about her 4 years later,” someone said.

All in all, users are in agreement that they “can’t with this trend anymore.”

This story was originally published March 17, 2025 at 2:17 PM with the headline "‘This trend broke me.’ TikTok trend about grief that has users ‘sobbing’ explained."