Varsity Kansas

Teaching how to win and lose with class

I thought about this topic because I read this column by Suzanne Tobias on playing board games and card games with her kids.

It’s a great commentary on how we teach how to win and lose. It’s not easy to do. There’s nothing worse than seeing a little one crying or throwing a tantrum because they’ve lost. But I truly believe one of the worst things you can do is let them win. I’ve seen the results, and goodness, it’s not pretty.

In high school sports, there are those who react well to losing or winning. There are others who don’t. Joy is fine, rubbing someone’s face in a loss is not. Shaking hands after a loss is good, kicking over the scorer’s table is not.

So how did you learn to win or lose in the right way? How would you teach it?