My Answer/Billy Graham

DEAR REV. GRAHAM: Someone hurt me very deeply about two years ago, and now I have an opportunity to really get back at her. My mother says I shouldn't do it, but I don't see any reason not to. What this person did was wrong, so why should she be allowed to get away with it? —C.J.

Dear C.J.: Wanting to strike back and hurt someone who's hurt us is a common human reaction — but that doesn't make it right. The Bible urges us to take a different path: "Do not repay anyone evil for evil. ... Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good" (Romans 12:17,21).

What's wrong with seeking revenge? For one thing, it seldom solves anything. I urge you not to start down this path, no matter how hurt you feel.

But revenge is also wrong because it's fueled by anger. Let's face it: You aren't really interested in justice; you simply want to see this person suffer. But anger will only lead you astray.