Bonnie Bing

Sentimental ones must stick together

While Christmas shopping with my family on the afternoon of Black Friday, I overheard a woman say, "Sentimentality is overrated." I wanted to argue with her. Surprisingly, I didn't.

But I wanted to tell her that memories and sentimentality are important. I'll never change my mind on that.

Using Webster's definition, sentimental people are marked by feeling, sensibility, or emotional idealism. We arrive at a conclusion based on feelings, rather than reason or thought, and we have an excess of sentiment and sensibility.


This time of year gives us "softies" plenty of opportunity to feel. And many who aren't usually sentimental get that way during the holidays.

Memories and feelings of gratitude about did me in on Thanksgiving.

I missed my dad, but was thrilled my mom was sitting beside me. I was worried about my friend's hospitalized 7-year-old son, while being very thankful for my healthy granddaughters.

My sentimental heart caused me to get teary-eyed several times that day. It seems I'm getting more sentimental with age.

I have a friend who used to don a Santa suit to be one of Santa's helpers every year. After many years he quit. The reason? "I can't keep from crying," he told me. "Those kids just get me, and any more I'm just too sentimental."

Oh, great. In another 10 years I won't be able to go to a sad movie without embarrassing myself by blubbering even louder than I do now.

Years ago I was on a plane, reading a magazine article about a woman who had lost her family. She wrote that keepsakes of them became very important to her. As tears rolled down my cheeks, a flight attendant thought I had suffered a personal loss and urged me to move up to a better seat.

I blew my nose and explained it was the magazine article that brought on the tears. She said, "I understand. I'm very sentimental too. Come on and move."

See, sentimentalists stick together. And that's not overrated.

Fun and fashion — Marquis Henley, the owner of East & West Menswear, a store at 924 E. Douglas, invites you to A Fashion Collision, a runway show and holiday party. The event is from 6 to 10 p.m. Thursday at Naked City Gallery, 121 N. Mead, Suite 104. The fashion show will start at 7 p.m. Stylists from Elements Hair and Body Shop will do hair and makeup. Tickets are $20 in advance, or $30 at the door. Call 316-440-9210.