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High school reunion is tricky for two friends on the outs

Dear Abby: "Lynn" and I were friends since we were teenagers. We are now in our late 40s. We had a successful business together, but I decided to leave it to pursue my dreams. She didn't understand and our relationship was the casualty.

There is a high school reunion coming up and I'm not sure how to handle it. Can you help? —FORMERLY FRIENDLY

Dear Formerly Friendly: Yes, when you attend the reunion, avoid her as much as possible. But if you can't, keep any conversation civil and brief — and move away.

Dear Abby: My wealthy brother-in-law and his family didn't give my daughter a graduation gift. And even though they attended my son's wedding, none of them gave him a wedding gift, either.

We have attended the graduations and weddings of all their children and have been generous. We know the right thing is to say nothing, but it's hard to remain quiet. —GIFTLESS FAMILY

Dear Giftless Family: If your in-laws attended both events, they should have given something. They may be cheap, stingy or so newly rich that they haven't learned the basic rules of etiquette. Or, they may have had financial reversals you are unaware of. You are correct that the "right" thing to do is to say nothing, so resist the temptation to call them on it.

Dear Abby: My 17-year-old daughter, "Kelly," tried to commit suicide. She was admitted to a hospital and started on an antidepressant. Last night, I met her psychiatrist. When I asked how Kelly was doing, he said she's agitated, not sleeping and he was starting her on medication that night.

When he mentioned the dose, I told him my daughter had been given half that amount previously and didn't wake up for 24 hours. I said I thought he should give her less or change the medication. He said he'd change it.

I'm glad I ran into him, but now I wonder what would have happened if I hadn't. What are the rules about medication being given to adolescents? —VIGILANT MOM

Dear Vigilant Mom: Because your daughter is under 18, your consent is needed for treatment. You have a right to know what's going on in your daughter's treatment and to make sure her doctor has enough information to do an effective job.

Should you become overwhelmed, the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) can provide support and help you navigate the system.

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