Couple's hearts fonder when they were apart

Dear Abby: My boyfriend, "Kent," and I have been together almost three years. It started out as a long- distance relationship, but my children and I have recently moved to his town.

When we were long-distance, we'd talk several times a day and say how much we loved each other. Now we don't talk that often except when we fight over stupid things, and the "I love yous" are almost nonexistent.

Abby, what bothers me is when we have "alone time" — the kids are asleep or away — Kent would rather watch sports, play on the computer, go out to the movies with his best friend or sleep. When it comes to romance — it doesn't happen more than twice a month or unless he's drunk.

When we first got together, Kent wanted to do everything with me. Now I have to fight for us to spend any time at all together. What can I do? —NEGLECTED IN PENNSYLVANIA

Dear Neglected: It's time to take a giant step back and reassess this romance, or what's left of it. If Kent asked you to pick up your children and move to his town, then it appears he has either had a change of heart or he's a heel. If he didn't, then your going there was a miscalculation on your part.

It is crucial that you understand how important it is that a person's words and actions match. Kent may tell you he loves you occasionally and under pressure, but his ACTIONS prove otherwise. If you still have the option, you should pack your bags and go back where you came from.