Scriptures are taken seriously
A first reason for Christians’ concern about theories of Jesus being married is that the New Testament Scriptures provide us with absolutely no evidence of a wife, and we take our Scripture very seriously and want to always defend against adulteration.
Similarly, from the Catholic perspective, a second reason is the seriousness with which we take the teaching tradition of our church. Catholics hold as a second source for our faith our church’s consistent teachings through the centuries, consistent teachings beyond Scripture but founded on Scripture and guided by the Holy Spirit. Our church tradition includes no teaching that Jesus was married.
A third reason is Jesus’ own teaching in Matthew 19:10-12 on the value of celibacy for witnessing to the Kingdom of God. Celibacy witnesses to the Kingdom of God’s love and justice for all people, not just for a few or for a particular individual. As such, Christians have consistently considered celibacy a most appropriate state of life for God’s son.
Teachings are more important
But when we take a deep breath, calm down and think deeply about what it would mean if Jesus were married, the truth slowly rises like the morning sun. We realize that it wouldn’t make any difference at all. Jesus’ height, weight, physical appearance, marital status and even lineage are simple historical facts that have little importance.
What he said; the revelations he pronounced; his inspiring message of hope, peace, love and joy; his direction for living a good life and being a beneficial presence in the world is what matters. If Jesus were married, good for him. I am happy for him. If Jesus were not married, good for him. I am happy for him. Either way, I give heartfelt gratitude for his words of wisdom.