Unless you live on another planet, you probably have heard of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus," which author John Gray published in 1992.
Perhaps you've even read the book that delved into the differences between men and women and how understanding the needs of the opposite gender can improve relationships.
But Gray figured it was about time to write a book that relates recent scientific research to his previous work. So earlier this year he came out with "Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice: Hormonal Balance —The Key to Life, Love and Energy."
Specifically, it's an exploration of how food and nutrition play a role in sustaining a healthy romantic relationship.
And that's what Gray will talk about when he comes to Wichita on Nov. 3. GreenAcres Market is sponsoring the talk, which is open to the public at no charge.
Gray said he's trying to bring science together with "what I've known for 30 years."
"There's a great amount of gender research being done at a lot of universities," he said. "But most researchers aren't counselors, so they don't know how to relate the research to people's lives. But that's my line."
Gray said he knows how to use that research to explain to a woman what it means for her relationships when her blood sugar level drops.
"It means she'll get temporary amnesia and forget any good thing she's ever done," he said.
Hormonal imbalance is caused to a large extent by fluctuating blood sugar levels, resulting in low energy levels for men and mood swings for women, Gray said.
A balanced diet would help.
"Yes, but when you say a good, balanced diet, who has one?" Gray said.
For starters, he said the meats we eat knock our hormones out of balance because the animals from which the meat comes are fed estrogen. That speeds up the brain in women and lowers energy and motivation levels for men, Gray said.
The hormonal imbalance is also created because people consume too much processed carbohydrates, creating up-and-down blood sugar levels, according to Gray.
That's not a new message, he acknowledged.
"It's kind of like talking to the wind when you tell people to consume less processed carbohydrates," Gray said. "It's everywhere, so to a great extent people are addicted to it.
"The essence of what processed food is, is they take the fiber out of the food, so the sugar gets into the bloodstream faster. We like that, but it causes spikes in blood sugar."
To help get things back in balance, Gray recommends what he calls nutritional "super food."
One of those is a food supplement known as PGX (PolyGlycopleX), which includes konjak root.
Gray said the root is a carbohydrate that is fibrous and absorbs water. It will also slow down the release of blood sugar, so a person won't experience blood sugar fluctuations, he said.
"A lot of people have little awareness of what how they eat affects their moods and energy levels," Gray said. "For them, this will be an 'Ah, ha!'
"Many people already know this. But for them, their big ah, ha is how men and women interact differently. They can learn some practical insights to understanding each other in a more positive way."
Whether changes are made in nutrition or not, at least gaining a perspective of how the other gender's body operates helps, he said. "It's a matter of giving and receiving more effectively in a relationship," Gray said.
If you go>
What: A talk by the author of "Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice: Hormonal Balance —The Key to Life, Love and Energy"
Where: Wichita Marriott, 9100 Corporate Hills Drive
When: 7 p.m. Nov. 3
How much: Free and open to the public.