For many women, taking care of others is a trait that comes naturally. But if you don’t stop to take care of yourself once in a while, your mental health could suffer, according to psychologist Patricia O'Gorman.
“Women are so good at figuring out what our husbands need, what our children need, what our girlfriends need, that we put ourselves last on the list if we even make the list at all,” said O'Gorman, who has written several books including her latest – “The Resilient Woman: Mastering the 7 Steps to Personal Power.”
O'Gorman said women are often afraid to step into their power because they are inundated with “girly thoughts” – or negative self-images – which she said can create insecurities and low self-esteem.
“All you have to do is look at the magazine covers at the checkout line,” she said. “These societal messages are always telling us we’re not pretty enough or young enough or thin enough or we’re too smart, too bossy, too old. We can’t win.”
The best way to stop the cycle of “girly thoughts,” O'Gorman said, is to develop resilience.
“Females are criticized for recognizing strengths the way males are criticized for sharing their feelings,” she said. “Building up your resilience means you have the power to know what you need, the vision to tend to those needs, and the strength to follow through.”
Here are O'Gorman’s tips to fend off the “girly thoughts” and embrace resilience: