CHICAGO — For Kelly James-Enger, breaking up battles between her two children is a year-round job. But lately, the Downers Grove, Ill., mother has enjoyed a little help from a wide-eyed elf named Michael.
I say, You two need to stop fighting, or Michaels going to go to the North Pole and tell Santa, said James-Enger, one of many parents who have adopted the tradition of The Elf on the Shelf, a popular childrens book that promotes the idea that Santa sends elves to watch kids and report good or bad behavior.
An estimated 6 million copies of the book and its accompanying red elf toy have sold since it was released in 2005. Parents ask their children to name the elf, then help the doll magically appear in a new spot each morning, and often share elaborate hiding spot ideas on Facebook and Pinterest. A parody, The Elf off the Shelf, and inappropriate elf images on Google and YouTube also have fueled its popularity.
Almost all my girlfriends have one, said James-Enger, who estimates that her children, Ryan, 8, and Haley, 3, argue 10 percent less in December thanks to Michaels monitoring.
But some parenting experts and booksellers question the December discipline tactic and its popularity.
I dont think thats a very good strategy, said Margret Nickels, clinical psychologist and director of the Erikson Institute Center for Children and Families in Chicago. Its the parents who want to be in charge as the authority in the house. Not the elf or Santa Claus.
The Elf on the Shelf story went to print after Carol Aebersold, a retired music teacher from Atlanta, lamented that she felt useless after her children grew up and moved out.
Then one day, one of her adult twin daughters, Chanda Bell, saw a familiar elf doll perched on Aebersolds kitchen shelf. She suggested that her mother share the Christmas tradition their family had enjoyed for years, said Aebersold, who co-wrote the book with Bell and is promoting the second book under the trademark.
According to the tale, the elf observes childrens behavior all day and returns to Santa while they sleep. To maintain the magic, children must never touch the elf. Parents help the elves find new spots to surprise the children each morning.
Today, Aebersold, 65, said she is amazed at the merchandise her story has inspired, including coloring books and clothing. The kits are sold in stores nationwide, and the 50-employee company behind them contracts with several major retailers.
It blows my mind, but I feel so good knowing that I am actually leaving a legacy for my grandchildren, she said. And I am in awe of the creativity of some of these moms and dads who have come up with the things for the elf to do.
Rebecca Fick, 38, of Montgomery, Ill., said that when her two daughters are acting out of line, a quick mention of their elf, Frosty Ginger, gets results.
Unfortunately, its only here for a month, Fick said. It does help a bit it gives us some leverage.
But the real reason Fick welcomes the elf in her home is to see the joy on her daughters faces when they walk downstairs in the morning. Like many fellow elves, Frosty Ginger has assumed a mischievous personality, delighting Ficks daughters with the way she decorates the Christmas tree with their underwear or rappels from the dining room chandelier.
Its adding to the season, Fick said. Your house is decorated, and youre baking cookies and going to parties. Its just part of the fun.
While Nickels, who assesses and counsels children and families, sees the appeal of the trend, she cautions parents that they should strive to develop consistent, year-round parenting strategies.
It is so much better for the parents to be the disciplinarian rather than have this elf impose an atmosphere of being watched, she said. To me, the risk of the elf is that parents think that this is a legitimate, healthy way to teach discipline to their children, which it is not.
Janice Kowalski, a child psychiatrist at Linden Oaks Hospital in Naperville, said some children might be spooked by the idea of an elf watching them. That happened to her daughters when she introduced the tradition at their request years ago.
They were scared that first year we got him. I think they wouldnt want to go downstairs, Kowalski said. You definitely just have to be aware that they might get anxious about thinking somebodys in the house. If that happens, you maybe dont want to use the toy.
In keeping with the story, Aebersold noted that the elves dont watch children while theyre sleeping. Thats when they return to the North Pole to give Santa a daily report, she said.
Aebersold said she avoids viewing online parodies of her book. It upsets me when people use it really as a kind of, Elf is going to get you and watch you, she said. I would just like it to be more pleasant and fun and something the kids really look forward to every year.