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Don't freak over recent headlines about a controversial new calcium study (stroke? heart attack?). Frankly, even experts found it confusing.
Truth is, most of us need more than we get from food to keep our skeletons strong. If you're pretty average when it comes to calcium, you get less than 700 mg a day. That's not enough. Here's what we do:
* Get calcium from these foods first: Dark leafy greens; almonds; canned salmon or sardines; calcium-reinforced orange juice, cereals and soy milk.
* Then add a 600-mg supplement. Your goal is 1,200 mg of calcium a day, half from food. One reason: This combo makes your bones stronger than just food or just supplements. Take your calcium with 1,000 IU of vitamin D-3 before age 60. Make that 1,600 mg of calcium (more from food) and 1,200 IU of D-3 after.
Why D-3, not plain vitamin D? Because it's the form your body uses best, and makes itself when sun hits skin. The calcium-D-3 combo cuts your fracture risk by an impressive 25 percent.
* Oh, take one more thing: 400 mg of magnesium. It keeps calcium from constipating you. You can thank us later.
Premenopausal women, start now. While you lose up to 20 percent of your bone density in the first five to seven years of menopause, thanks to the drop in estrogen, get serious sooner. Shifts in other hormones before menopause can erode bones fast. If you choose hormone replacement, make sure you add two baby aspirins, plus the calcium, magnesium and vitamin D-3.
Save your marriage: Help your wife fall asleep
Turns out that when wives take longer to drop into dreamland, the next day is not so dreamy for either partner. Both of you will feel more criticized or ignored by your spouse and less valued than usual.
Researchers don't know why it happens — or why it doesn't happen when guys sleep poorly. But it doesn't. Rest easy. Here's how wives (and all of us) can avoid a lousy night's sleep (and enjoy a happier marriage!).
* Run for your life. Or walk, bike, dance, play tennis. Daytime physical activity helps you sleep better at night. Just leave at least two hours between it and bedtime.
* Put your electronic toys to bed early. An hour before bedtime, turn them off. The flickering light from the screens of computers, cell phones and TVs keeps your brain in wake-up mode.
* Make the bedroom cool and dark. The combo signals your body to step up production of sleep-inducing melatonin.
* Kiss your spouse goodnight, then breathe deeply. Slow, rhythmic breathing prepares you to rest. If deep breathing turns to heavy breathing (yep, sex), you'll both relax and sleep even better. The next day should be sweet, too.
5 tips to keep teens safe online
Doing goofy things online — even if you're not a politician — can get you into plenty of trouble. With one click, you or someone you love can send a harsh word, a wild photo or worse into cyberspace, where it will stay forever — and one day come back to haunt you.
If you see your children or grandchildren spending more time on Facebook than face to face with you, you're right to be worried they might wind up in a situation they'll regret. The Internet's like a tattoo on your forehead — visible for all to see and almost impossible to remove.
So, here are some tips from our new book, "YOU: The Owner's Manual for Teens," that can help keep your loved ones safe online:
* Don't e-mail when angry. Really! Don't hit "send" until you're calm. You can't take back what's in print.
* Put photos to the Grandma test. Don't upload any pics you wouldn't want your grandmother, a college admissions officer or a future employer to see. Because they will.
* Keep personal info private. Don't reveal your school, where you live or any detail making it easy for strangers to find you. That goes double for photos of your private parts. Don't send them to anyone, even best friends.
* Don't friend someone you don't know. When in doubt, leave 'em out. Do you really want a stalker on your page?
* Feeling cyber-bullied? Or harassed? If something doesn't feel right, tell a parent or school guidance counselor. You don't have to take it!
Manage anger to live younger
Conventional wisdom has it that the best way to handle your anger is to let it all out, punch a pillow, scream and yell. Wrong!
It's just the opposite: Letting it rip actually escalates aggression, anger and anxiety. Even worse, it triggers bodywide inflammation that can seriously boost your immediate risk of heart attacks and strokes — plaque rupture — and long-term aging of important organs like your heart, brain, skin, gonads and kidneys.
You can't avoid getting angry if you're human. But you can turn it around. Try these calming tips that work for us:
* Choose smart words. Don't jump to extremes. Tell yourself that this is just one of those things that happens sometimes — nobody's gonna die. That gives you the breathing space to fix whatever set you off. Whew, that's a relief.
* Go for a fast walk. Or do push-ups. Or press your fingers together hard and take three deep breaths. Focused physical activity channels those angry feelings so they ease off without anyone getting hurt. Bonus: You'll be breathing too hard to say anything you'll later regret.
* Do the opposite. Feel like cursing that guy who cut you off? Try the opposite of anger: Empathy. Imagine he just got word that his child is in the hospital. You'll calm down faster if you think about how much he is suffering; most people aren't jerks on purpose.
Follow our retro roadmap to a thinner future
The big switcheroo to sit-down jobs helps explain today's obesity epidemic and the jump in average weight between 1962 and 2006: from 170 to 198 pounds for men, from 143 to 170 for women.
Don't settle for an XL belt size. These steps will take you back to more active times and forward to weight-loss success.
* Walk to win back a slim 1960s figure. Hit the sidewalk before work for 30 minutes daily (or just leave your desk and hike the hallways for 10 minutes three times). Only watch TV on an exercise bike. Join a yoga/weight/dance class with a pal. Move!
* Eat retro portion sizes. Yep, those were the days before "super-size it" appeared on menus. Reverting to moderate portions will help you lose big.
* Give your diet some modern twists, too. Instead of pot roast, gravy, mashed potatoes and limp green beans, go for slimming 21st-century dishes: grilled lemon-pepper chicken breasts, veggies with a little olive oil and balsamic vinegar, and herbed whole-wheat couscous. You're on your way back to a thinner future!
